Sunday 3 December 2017

A Parent's Voice - If You Pray, Pay for Her.

This blogs been a bit quiet for a while. I've been busy, helping set up and do the admin for this:

The Gender Critical Support Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 
We are critical of the phenomenon of transgender youth growing at epidemic rates. 
The forum provides support for parents and families who would like a thoughtful and cautious approach to intervention for their gender dysphoric child. 
The board wasn't my idea. I don't want to say who it was in case I dump them in it, but really I just do the techy stuff. We started it up in August, it got mentioned by 4th Wave Now in the middle of September and then it really took off. 

The people who come are just amazing. 

Trans activists would have everyone believe we are unsupportive, intolerant, bigoted hateful parents who are prepared to see our kids die rather than face up to the truth. The people who come are just parents who love their kids, like all parents they will fight like hell to look after their kids when something threatens their kids.

Its all about giving space to parents to tell share stories, somewhere to learn they are not alone. 

This is just one story of many, that someone PM'd me and asked me to share. Its heartbreaking, but very far from exceptional. I've changed names and places and removed some detail to protect her and her daughter:

Janet Wrote:
We are heartbroken to find out she has scheduled a Mastectomy raising funds unbeknownst to us and has succeeded. Please put a message out to pray for Meghan. She will not listen to any reason at this point. I have provided her with countless resources which she is not responding to. 
Only divine intervention will save her now. Please ask for prayers. God bless you. 
Also starting a support group in Orlando Florida.

There's nothing you can say that doesn't involve a great deal of swearing. My heart goes out to her. She is living thru my nightmares.

So I'm putting the word out.

I don't have a faith myself, but I do believe in the power of sharing our stories, the strength we gain by telling them and the solidarity we build by having them heard.

So if you have faith pray to your God. Pray for Janet and Meghan. 

Faith or no faith, tell her story, imagine yourself in her place. 

Think of the child you have born and raised, you have looked after for most of your adult life. 

Think of that child having a seed of anxiety, of self doubt, as her body changes through puberty. As those changes get noticed, judged and commented on by men and boys. Men and boys who now feel emboldened to tell her exactly what they would like to do.

Think of that inflated into self hatred by a society that acts like it only values girls as much as they please the male gaze. A culture takes girls sexuality and throws it back, distorted by the spatchcocking lens of porn into an object for inadequate men to imagine themselves abusing in the search for a wank. 

Think of your girl searching out to make sense of the distress and disgust she feels when she experiences how our culture reflects her. 

Think of what she finds: 

A society that tell young women they have to accept porn and prostitution as empowering and a natural expression of sexuality that they should celebrate.

She finds a feminism and LGB culture and organisations dominated by the reinvention of Sexual inversion (Wikipedia) that tell her if she feels she cannot hack it as a woman in this world, its because she is really a man. 

The only place she can hear voices to share her story are under the glitter umbrella of trans. They will tell her special she is, how anyone who says she is not trans is an evil TERF. How being lesbian is so passe and its transphobic to reject lesbians with a penis. How everyone is gender queer now.

They will tell her that as a woman she has cis privilege. All that crap about being a woman that she doesn't know how to deal with. All that, is cis privilege that means that she has to defer to the needs of every dodgy bloke with a bit of lippy, a New York Dolls pose or a who likes to crack one off in his daughters underwear.

Think of that when you support a political party that says they "support trans kids to be themselves" or they recognise all women even if they have a penis, have a facebook page with rape jokes and decided they were really a woman a few months before becoming a womens rep.

Think of that before you politely conflate being gay or lesbian with the bullshite new relegion of trans under the rainbow umbrella of LGBTQ.

Think of that if you a teacher taking part in Gender Inclusivity training or a doctor writing a referral to a gender therapist. 

Think of that before you bottle out and call someone elses kids by the new name and pronouns, because you want to be nice.

Its not a left - right thing. Its not a an LGB vs homophobia thing. Its women and children against a delusional porn fueled ideology.

Going along with it all, to be nice, to be polite, to not upset people, is complicity


  1. Keep it up! You're doing great, there's a desperate need for people to speak out about this right now and until it ends.

  2. Hi there,

    Thanks for this blog, it is so helpful.
    I am a mother struggling with a 13 year old son with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria.
    Whilst I know most of the teens who are being affected by this are female, and I applaud the emphasis on this, there ARE some boys going through this too. Lisa Littman's study gave a figure of about 20% I believe. Referrals of boys to gender clinics have exploded too, although less so than for the girls.
    It would be great to get so info, or see posts or stories, about the (natal) male kids and teens going through this.
    My son is sweet, gentle and loving - I cannot see him becoming one of the aggressive M to F who are vocally demanding access to female only places and the like.

    Thanks again for the great resource.


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